.I barely have words to say.
By now you have probably heard the news. New York just passed a bill to legalize abortions through the ninth month of pregnancy, repeal protection for surviving babies of botched abortions, and allow non-physicians to perform abortions. Applause broke out in the NY Senate chamber as the "Reproductive Health Act" was passed.
This is heart-breaking.
My family and I have been on a life-giving mission since 2009. Since then I have been a Gestational Carrier (a.k.a surrogate) for three families dealing with infertility and carried five surrogate babies.
These families are not alone. One in 8 couples are struggling to conceive and carry a baby to term (1 in 6 over the age of 35). That's 12% of married couples who would give ANYTHING (and most do) to be pregnant and deliver a child. Tens of thousands of dollars, hundreds of injections, years of tears and prayers for a child.
Since I carried twins twice for two amazing families, I was considered "high risk" and had sonograms at almost every doctor's appointment. The parents of the babies were always at the appointments with me. Together we watched the sonogram screen to see their babies moving, stretching, sleeping, and sucking their thumb.
On the day they were born these babies were not new to us. They were NOT strangers, nor did they instantaneously become human beings at delivery. They had already been known, talked with, read to, loved on, prayed for, and wanted since day 1.... BIG TIME.
Life is a gift.
Millions of couples are praying to be pregnant.
Millions of couples are praying for what others take for granted.
If abortion is about choices, there are better options. A pregnant women can choose to move forward with motherhood or adoption.
There are many women out there unable to conceive and carry that would love for those women to choose adoption.
At the end of the day, abortion stops a beating heart.
This fact breaks my surrogate heart.
Please reconsider and overturn abortion laws.
Mom of two, Surrogate mom of 5
Tiffany Jo Baker MA, CLC
P.S. This is an actual sonogram picture of the fifth surrogate baby I carried. Already full of hope, joy and ready to change the world.
Here we are, almost in February 2019 and you may already be discouraged (like me some days).
We go into a new year with fresh hope, expectations, and resolutions, but sometimes real life leaves us sour.
We all have lemons... your lemon may be ever-present, it may have just popped up, or it be a behind the scenes pest that hits when you are weakest or least expect it.
So what do we do when life gives us lemons...
I'm not going to tell you to focus on all the good things that you have going on, you know, the other 90% of your life (although that is something that you should do.)
I'm not going to tell you to overlook and forget about your lemons and give them less and less time and energy than you do (although if you can do that, do it).
I'm not going to tell you to have more faith that lemonade is coming (although, it is!)
and I'm definitely not going to tell you to not worry about your lemons (although you shouldn't).
But, what I am going to tell you to do is to SQUEEZE your lemons.
What do I mean?
I mean it's time for you to put pressure on your lemons and start getting something good out of them. It's a way to reframe your lemons and your life.
Instead of letting your lemons steal your joy, energy, relationships (and whatever else), it's time for you to tell the voice about your lemons to be quiet and that you are no longer letting them steal the sweetness from your life. It's time for you to see the sweet things that this sour-spot is actually bringing.
Maybe this lemon has brought a new friendship, a new level of faith, a new vulnerability, a new strength, a new hope, a new perspective. Take a minute now to think about the good stuff that this lemon has or could bring to your life (if you let it).
What I know is that lemons are a crucial ingredient to making lemonade, but you have to add the sugar to the lemons.
Find your sugar. Find your sweet spot.
God didn't cause the lemons, but He can help you add the sugar.
"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God..." Romans 8:28
Adding sugar to my lemons every day,
Tiffany Jo Baker MA, CLC
P.S. Check out the sweet things happening on my Pinterest boards here.
Tiffany Jo Baker is a 3x surrogate, speaker, coach, confidante and cheerleader to help you birth your dreams.
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