Being a surrogate is just like anything worthwhile in life...there are ups and there are downs. In the end, being able to be a part of a life-giving journey with a family makes it all worth while.
Too many times we stop short of the end prize...the goal, because things get too hard or we get too discouraged. But what if the next day, or the next time you try, you would receive your promise, your dream?
Throughout our 2 surrogate journeys we have had the pleasure of partnering with amazing families. Each has had their own journey to fulfilling their family dream. The first family was unable to have children due to the mom having cancer and a full hysterectomy. We dealt with a surrogate agency that ended up stealing from vulnerable families and a fertility Doctor that was medically negligent and quite possibly criminal. In the end, I carried twin boys for that family who are now just over 4 years old. The current family we are working with has dealt with 7 miscarriages and a previous surrogate that was unable to get pregnant. I am now 17 weeks pregnant with their twins.
There will be ups and downs in life. The downs make the ups so much sweeter. Don't give up on the dream that God has given you. You may be in the painful stage, but joy will come.
John 16:21(NIV) "A woman giving birth to a child has pain because her time has come; but when her baby is born she forgets the anguish because of her joy that a child is born into the world."
Many have asked what our girls think about me being a surrogate and carrying someone else's babies. The first time I was a surrogate in 2010-2011 our girls were 4 and 6 years old. Early on in that surrogate pregnancy with the twins I sent their teachers an email to let them know what was happening in our family in case the girls said something. I found out from Selah's preschool teacher that she had already told her "My mom is pregnant with someone else's baby"! It's a good thing I sent the email to clarify the situation:)
With this surrogate pregnancy the girls are now 9 and 11. They love being a part of this journey and we truly see this as a family ministry. We all play a role. Just this week our girls were able to meet the 7 year old brother of the twins I am currently carrying for the first time. It was very special. He gave our girls each flowers and a stuffed bear and thanked them for the gift of his brother and sister. He has been praying during his bedtime prayers to be a big brother for the past 4 years. What a special thing for God to answer his prayer with a double portion of blessing...2 siblings.
Tomorrow I will be 15 weeks pregnant. All 3 of us are healthy and doing well. God is good.
Matthew 21:16 "Do you hear what these people are saying?" Jesus told them, "Yes! Haven't you ever read, 'From the mouths of infants and nursing babies you have created praise'?"
Tiffany Jo Baker is a 3x surrogate, writer, speaker and Couples Life & Fertility support coach.
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