I'm so excited to introduce my brave friend, Jenn Buell for this week's Guest Blog Post!
Brave Faith: Raising Brave Kids to Face a Big World
We try to teach our children so many things don’t we? Play nice, pick up your stuff, memorize your Bible verses, wash your hands after you go to the bathroom, don’t hit your sister, and so much more. Each of these things represents character traits we hope to instill in them before they grow up and fly the nest. One character trait that gets overlooked in this age of helicopter parenting is bravery.
We hover under them on the monkey bars, wanting to protect them from falling.
We monitor their play, wanting to protect them from so many things. We go to bat for them with tough teachers, wanting to protect their future from the mark a
failure leaves. There is nothing wrong with wanting to protect our kids. It’s engrained into us. And the age of information makes the world feel scarier, heavier, and feel more like the stakes are higher.
The World Feels Scary
Do you remember a childhood of running free around the neighborhood, unencumbered by parental eyes? I do. I’m dating myself here, but I was a kid in the late-70s and early-80s. I remember walking alone to the swimming pool five or six blocks away to spend the day swimming. I think I was 8 the earliest memory I have of that. (Gasp!) I remember leaving the house after lunch to run the neighborhood with friends or explore the creek near our house and not coming back until I heard my mother yelling my name.
Can you imagine letting your kids do that now? Of course not. Someone would report you.
Would it surprise you to know the crime rate then was higher than now? It shocked me. Just google it and watch page after page talking about how crime today is far below that of my childhood. We just know about it instantly with 24-hour news cycles and Amber Alerts to cell phones.
So How Do We Teach Brave?
I’m a widowed mom of four kids. Five and a half years ago, my loving husband of 20 years died suddenly of a heart attack. No warning, no anticipation. Just gone. And there I stood with four kids, ages 5 to 15, in uncharted territory. Scary territory. What now?
My husband used to tell people what made him fall in love with me—my strength. His own father had died when he was 2 and he said he knew if anything happened to him, I would be okay. I would keep going. Such a compliment and one that was so vital as I had to choose to bravely keep going with and for my kids.
When he died, I determined that my children would see me being brave. Parenting four kids alone is the hardest, scariest thing I've ever done. But if I want them to learn to face life and trials bravely, they need to see me doing just that.
In Joshua 1:9 we find a call to bravery, "Remember that I commanded you to be strong and brave. Don’t be afraid, because the Lord your God will be with you everywhere you go." (NLT, emphasis mine)
You Need to Choose Brave
That is how we teach brave—by being brave. By trusting God as He goes with us into hard, scary, exhilarating places. As he asks us to walk on water, to feed 5,000, to pray for miracles, and to go into all the world and we choose to say yes.
By applying to go back to school to finish or start a new degree.
By asking for a raise or a chance at a better job.
By jumping on the roller coaster or off the high dive.
By moving to a new city to start over again.
By pursuing a calling God has placed in your heart when you have no idea how that will work.
By trusting God to provide when your checking account is laughing at you.
Your children need to see you being brave not because you are amazing, but because God is. He makes us brave. He asks us to trust Him and do brave, scary things. But then. Oh, then watch what happens.
My eldest son did something brave that required me to be brave too. He is attending college 13 hours from home in a place he knew no one before going. They had a great film school and a scholarship for in-state tuition that was too good to pass up. He’s finishing his second year of being brave and it has not always been easy. But he’s doing it.
Oh that we would demonstrate brave for our children and raise children who are brave. That they would see us trusting God to lead us into bravery-requiring places.
Our children learn more from what we do than what we say, though they are listening to the words as well. When they see us taking brave steps, they learn to be brave. When they see us trusting God, they learn to have brave faith.
Oh that bravery would be a legacy we leave to our children.
What’s one brave thing you’ve been considering that you
haven’t stepped into yet? Is it time? Feel free to share in the comments and we can cheer you on.
About my friend and Guest Blog Post writer:
Jenn Buell is a single supermom to four amazing kids who lives in the beautiful Black Hills of South Dakota. She’s an event speaker, podcaster at Right There With You, writer at JennBuell.com, and radio DJ at a Christian station. She’s also a huge movie and sci-fi geek who adores baking for her people. Check out her blog, podcast and free video series.
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.I barely have words to say.
By now you have probably heard the news. New York just passed a bill to legalize abortions through the ninth month of pregnancy, repeal protection for surviving babies of botched abortions, and allow non-physicians to perform abortions. Applause broke out in the NY Senate chamber as the "Reproductive Health Act" was passed.
This is heart-breaking.
My family and I have been on a life-giving mission since 2009. Since then I have been a Gestational Carrier (a.k.a surrogate) for three families dealing with infertility and carried five surrogate babies.
These families are not alone. One in 8 couples are struggling to conceive and carry a baby to term (1 in 6 over the age of 35). That's 12% of married couples who would give ANYTHING (and most do) to be pregnant and deliver a child. Tens of thousands of dollars, hundreds of injections, years of tears and prayers for a child.
Since I carried twins twice for two amazing families, I was considered "high risk" and had sonograms at almost every doctor's appointment. The parents of the babies were always at the appointments with me. Together we watched the sonogram screen to see their babies moving, stretching, sleeping, and sucking their thumb.
On the day they were born these babies were not new to us. They were NOT strangers, nor did they instantaneously become human beings at delivery. They had already been known, talked with, read to, loved on, prayed for, and wanted since day 1.... BIG TIME.
Life is a gift.
Millions of couples are praying to be pregnant.
Millions of couples are praying for what others take for granted.
If abortion is about choices, there are better options. A pregnant women can choose to move forward with motherhood or adoption.
There are many women out there unable to conceive and carry that would love for those women to choose adoption.
At the end of the day, abortion stops a beating heart.
This fact breaks my surrogate heart.
Please reconsider and overturn abortion laws.
Mom of two, Surrogate mom of 5
Tiffany Jo Baker MA, CLC
P.S. This is an actual sonogram picture of the fifth surrogate baby I carried. Already full of hope, joy and ready to change the world.
Tiffany Jo Baker is a 3x surrogate, speaker, coach, confidante and cheerleader to help you birth your dreams.
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