The application process to become a surrogate has a number of different aspects. It is like a mixture of a resume, application for a new job, short answers like you are applying for college and portfolio with pictures of you and your family. Once that is submitted, you will have a phone interview with the Director of the agency and if all is a go...the next step is to be added to the "binder" of potential surrogates.
The Director receives similar information from Intended Parents and proceeds to provide the IP's with some choices in an effort to best match surrogates and Intended Parents. Both surrogates and IP's are looking for the best match for each other during this process, so both can agree or disagree to a match. If you are being considered as a match...next steps can include a Home Visit by an agency/social service professional who writes up a report about you, your home and your family and a Psychological Evaluation for you and your spouse.
Now...I thought seeing a counselor and having a Psych Evaluation was kind of fun:). Since I have a Masters in Professional Counseling (not licensed) it was neat to be on the other side of the "couch". The questions were logical and some interesting in themselves as they try to weed out those that wouldn't be a good fit. "How do you think you will feel after the birth of the baby? "What type of relationship do you see yourselves having with the Intended Parents?" "Do you hear voices that aren't there?" ...stuff like that:)
This is an important step in the process. Any parent would want to know that their surrogate and her husband is of sound mind and intentions. I am glad to say that Brian & I passed both times...whew!
To be a surrogate, some may think that you would have to be a little crazy. I would say we are a little more "out of the box" people.
I am 12 weeks pregnant today as a surrogate to a healthy set of twins. God is good.
2 Timothy 1:7 "For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power, love and of a sound mind."
Tiffany Jo Baker is a 3x surrogate, writer, speaker and Couples Life & Fertility support coach.
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