One of the saddest things I have ever heard from a couple who were pursuing their purpose and dreams were the words, “I wish we would have…”
In a day and age where there are so many options, routes and possibilities, it can leave couples unsure, questioning and overwhelmed on their life journey. It’s no wonder many couples are stressed and strained with decision fatigue and just want to give up going for their dreams.
If only time machines were real. If only we could get a glimpse of the future and know beyond a shadow of a doubt the best and easiest route to take.
It could save us so much heartache, time and money. But with all the advancements we have had in technology, science and medicine, a time machine has yet to be created. Knowing the end from the beginning is a gift only God has.
But there are some key decision making principles that can help you and your spouse navigate all the things to help you have a smoother goal-getting journey with more peace and more positive results:
Make decisions based on what matters most to you two. Create a list of your core values and guiding principles. Then when you have decisions to make, see if they line up with what you believe and what your priorities are.
Make decisions based on your resources. How much energy, time and money do you have (or can you acquire)?
Make decisions that will leave you with no regrets. Make all-in decisions in 100% faith and clarity. Sometimes you may have to take calculated risks.
Make decisions together in unity and agreement. You each will bring different perspectives and gifts to your life journey. Take these into consideration to make decisions together. At the end of the day you will want to succeed or fail together, not able to play the ugly blame-game.
Make decisions based on the size and scale of that decision. The bigger the decision, the more confirmations are needed and support for that decision you will want to have.
You probably already know that life is full of ups and downs, twists and turns. We can come into situations with our plans and expectations and those can quickly get over-turned and messed up.
Even though there are many aspects of the journey that you can’t control, you will always have choices and for those few instances that seem to leave you without choices, you can still choose how you will respond in those moments. Cheering you on, Tiffany Tiffany Jo Baker MA, CLC